"I've had choices since the day that I was born
There were voices that told me right from wrong
If I had listened, no I wouldn't be here today
Living and dying with the choices I've made"- George Jones
While I am not a fan of country music, the lyrics of this song hit me to bits. I am more than sure all of us can testify to it that we are what/who/where we are today as a result of the choices we've made in the past. Similarly, the choices we make now will contribute to our future. In other words, for anyone mindful of success and fulfillment, being mindful and careful about the choice he makes would be a constant call. In the previous parts of this series, I highlighted that the choices we make at life's crossroads are very pertinent to the shape of our lives and future.
[Recall] My theory of crossroads is that a man or woman at a crossroad can only choose one of 7 decisions available to him or her. He/she can either choose to go forward or retract backwards; move up or down; drift left or right; or be stagnant at the same position.
The final part of this series is on the choice to either drift left or right. While it is difficult to ascertain in a crossroad whether the left turn is the better choice than the right, I believe there rules to making choices that can help guide such dilemma. I will like to share two main tips on how to choose when faced with the choice to either drift left or right...
1. Every selfish decision is a wrong choice: One of the many ways to know you are choosing wrongly is if you have decided to consider only your selfish decision. I learned a theory a few years back which I would still love to blog about soon; its called the 'balanced theory of wisdom' (Stenberg, 1998) - The theory proposes a balance when making a choice: self-interests (intrapersonal) with the interests of others (interpersonal) and of other aspects of the context in which one lives (extrapersonal), such as one’s community - city, country or environment or even God.’So, when next you are at a crossroad, think of these things.
2. Choose informed decisions over 'emotional' ones: well, maybe because I am a researcher but I've come to discover when I delve into things before making decisions over them, I tend to make the right decisions. Successful people make informed decisions - information on such decisions could come from previous experiences (personal and from others), insights and knowledge from wise fellows... life is too short to keep making uninformed decisions. When your choice are guided, you would hardly make wrong decisions.
With this post, we've come to the end of the 'Let me Decide' series. Thanks for following through. I am sure you've picked up one or two things and you've been inspired by the series. God bless you.
- Le Dynamique Professeur (LDP)