One thing about creation is that somethings are just normal; FINAL. There is nothing you can do about them. I recently wrote a note on facebook where I shared about four things the bible says are normal and would never cease, come what may. They are: night and day, cold and heat, summer and winter, seed-time and harvest. These things are part of what makes life go on. They are what makes the world, world. There is nothing we can do about it. They are just normal. Whether you are rich or poor, old or young, learned or illiterate, short or tall, it matters not. From a deep reflection these past few weeks, I've come up with 3 things starting with the letter 'F' that are normal. The fact that you have not experienced any of them doesn't exempt you. Whenever they happen, its your response that matters. Come with me on this journey to the normal world.
Yes, it is normal for anyone to be scared. Oh, you just finished an interview and then your heart beats as though it'd come out of your chest, "what if I don't make it again this time?" You've been expecting a letter from the institution you applied to; it's yet to arrive and you've been feeling a little hypertensive about it as though the world is about to come to an end. Listen to me, its normal to be scared. That's part of being human. Your body contains cells that gets you nervous when necessary.
Listen to what Nelson Mandela has to say; "I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear."
I am still thinking about a successful man on this planet that hasn't failed before. It is just one of those things you'd find on the pathway to success. I am sure you'd agree with me on this one. Everything you look in hindsight at the times you've failed, you'd discover there's something you needed to learn that if you didn't you'd probably not be safe where you are right now. Have you been defeated by an O-level/School/professional examination? Maybe you have been knocked out of a relationship that left you deeply hurt, piercing through your heart and soul. Peradventure you have been relegated to bankruptcy by the financial measures of the country you live in because your business just failed. Perhaps you have been conquered by seemingly long-lived infirmity that has lasted for so long in your family and life has become so hard to live. All these are normal. What you are going through is because of where you are going to. Someone said, "our life experiences are as a result of lessons we must learn". Though you fail, continue to sail.
Hear Winston Churchill paint the picture better on failure, "Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm."
You are able to stand, walk, run, jog today because you decided at age 1 and 2 not to give up even though you fell several times. You fell down, yet you got back up again. You probably broke a tooth while at it but guess what? it grew back. Here you are walking with your tooth fixed as an adult. Listen to me, just as it was normal then for you to fall before you could walk well, its still normal for you to fall now. Just make sure you are not contented with your fallen state. Shame your critiques, set the stage for your comeback. Get back up again.
Jon Bon Jovi says it like this, "Success is falling nine times and getting up ten."
Now let me tell you what would be abnormal. It'd be abnormal and stupid should you decide to give up in the face of your fears, failures and falls. It'd be a shame if you decide to let go of all because of a strange feeling that's related to your past experiences. Listen, it's only normal to fear, fail or fall because you are human. There are two sides to the three; when they knocks and when they're responded to. The former is when you first experience them while the latter is your attitude and disposition to the experience. The best response is to not give in. Say to yourself, "it is normal. My life must continue. I must make it. I must get to my destination. I am not a failure."
Thanks for reading. Hope you have been inspired?
- Le Dynamique Professeur