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How are you responding???

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Recently, I was reading Jack Canfield's book "how to get from where you are to where you want to be" and I got this insight into life that captured my heart. The lesson I learnt from a plain non-spiritual perspective of Jack Canfield coincides with another lesson I learnt from my bible. As a christian, the last one week saw me learning from one of the most influencial person that ever lived - Jesus Christ. The lesson I've been trying to introduce is about responding to live events. I discovered that Jesus, althrough his life on earth, never blamed anyone for anything that happened to Him. He always responded to events in His life without complaints. Jesus took His life by its grips and never gave excuses for things - good or bad - that happened to Him. To the very religious amongst us, we might question 'but Jesus is a supernatural being?' I have this to say on that one - when Jesus was on earth, He experienced and passed through all things a natural human being would probably go through in His life. He cried, he laughed, he travelled, he was praised, disappointed, disgraced, died, bled, killed, appeared in court... However, He blamed no one for any of these things.

Jack Canfield said, "to effectively live life, we have to own it and be responsible for it". I reckon this is a truthful saying. Many of us lack claiming responsiblity for the events of our lives. When good things happen to us, we claim responsibility but when they are otherwise, we blame other or give excuses. I visited a friend this week and he said to me, "Samuel, you know what? When we say people hate us, its not that they probably choose to, peradventure its our first impression on them that influenced their disposition towards us" So, at the end of the day, the blame should still be ours because we emanated that impression or attitude in the first place. One of the quotes I've learnt from this week, "beware of no man more than yourself; we carry our worst enemies within us" ~ Charles Spurgeon. Many of us possess attitudes that are very bad and thus attract negative attitudes from others. Like John Maxwell said, "attitude is life's paint brush". The attitude you emanate paints your life.

Jack gave a formula that I reckon we should lay to heart... 
Events + Response = Outcomes

What this means is that the events of our lives plus our responses to them brings out the outcomes - whether desired or not; positive or negative; expected or unexpected.

If you have a job and you are not happy with the job, you should respond either by leaving the job, move on or continue there and remain unhappy. Your response would determine the outcome.
If you are in a relationship and things are not going well for you. You can either respond by continuing therein (coping with the stress and challenges) or leave. You should stop blaming others or giving one excuse or the other. Your response would determine the outcome.
If you are studying a course and it appears you were not built for it. You then need to respond whether you want to continue with the course and remain perhaps unhappy for life or leave the course for another to do something that would make you fulfilled when  you think about your life. Your response will determine the outcome.

Its  your response that matters! Yes, you heard me well - your response matters! To that relationship, that career, that studies, that vocation, that job, that project, that contract, that friendship. Stop blaming others. Blame yourself for not responding well should anything happens. Take responsibility for your life. I only have one resolution this year and its to "never linger at places or with people that only tolerate me and do not celebrate or appreciate me". That resolution is a response to many events that happened in my life in 2009. What is your own response???

- Le Dynamique Professeur

You are the only You in the World!

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I was a boy of multiple personalities growing up. I remember very clearly, when I was 8 year old, my Dad bought me a book written by Robert Liardon titled, "I saw heaven". In the book, Robert saw heaven at the age of 8. His grandma often would put him through on how to read the bible. Then, a day came, he saw Jesus walked into his room and thereafter, took him to heaven. He then communicated the rest of the story in that wonderful book. That made me aspired to be like Robert Liardon. Coincidentally, I was 8 then so I really wanted to see heaven too. I never saw heaven though but I believe I would some day. When I turned 10, while other parents bought their children cartoons and kid movies, my parents got us VHS tapes of Reinhard Bonkke preaching in Africa. As a young chap, I stopped wanting to become Robert Liardon. Reinhard Bonkke had won my heart. I never stopped talking about preaching the gospel on a crusade ground. I wanted to touch the blind eyes, I desired praying for the sick to recover too. The evangelism of Jesus Christ caught me to the bones.

After a while, I got into secondary school about 11 years old. I started making friends that loved music. R.Kelly, Celine Dion became the order of the day. I soon changed my dream to becoming like R. Kelly. I loved to sing like him. Although I never had his voice but I was not that bad *laughing*. After a while, I started mixing with some break dancers and I started to like Michael Jackson. I began doing break dancing. I began competing with my peers on the dancing floor. All that seem to matter then was how I could beat them to new moves. That didn't last long either, before I knew it, my passion for soccer had grown past break dancing. First, it was Okocha that I wanted to be like and then David Beckham and then  Thierry Henry. Images of unique personalities were what I had in my frame of mind until it occured to me one day, that no one is and can be like me because I am the only me. In other words, I can and should never try to be like those people because they are 'them' and I am me!

Nothing God created is absolutely identical. That's why you should not be satisfied trying to become like someone. You were designed and created by God to be different. To be unique in the world. Not to blend in but to stand out. There are thousands of flowers in the world. Interestingly, while they are all flowers, each one is unique in its species, colours and traits. A look at the forest with many trees. At first glance, the trees may appear to be blending together. However, when you get closer, you will notice that the shape, smell, texture of each tree is unique. Every type of tree has its leaves uniquely designed. When you buy a diamond, it is expensive because no two diamonds in the world are alike. Pearls are costly too because they are found only in a small number of mollusks, and they must be searched for to be seen. Gold is not cheap because you can't just find it anywhere on the surface. It is tough to find. You have to dig deep to discover gold. When you even find it, it does not look any way like the ones in the jewelry store.

God created you as YOU! No one is like you. He wanted you to be perpetually valuable that's why. He made you as one of a kind. You are one in 6 billion. Not one in a million like some singers have sung. God does not mass produce people. If you go to a sale in a discount store, you'd notice cheap clothes on racks that are all alike. They are always cheap because they were mass produced. You are not in any way like those mass-produced clothings or wears. God did not make you and then place you on a sale rack. You were Designer-made! Unique Architectured! Spectacularly moulded! Don't let anyone make you feel you are ordinary and without value. You are irreplaceable and original. You are not a mistake. You were ordained from the foundations of the world. You were born with a purpose only you can bear. You have to cherish it and live for it. Myles Munroe said, "every human being was created to accomplish something specific that no one else can accomplish." Some people don't know this truth and have thus buried themselves in lesser forms of existence, making themselves graveyards of God's uniquely deposited treasures.

Now that you know you are the only YOU in the world, there are a few things you must begin to do to...
  • Find your purpose and let it become your passion. Let it wake you up in the morning and keep you going when you are tired. Let it be the oil that lights your lamp through your day-to-day existence.
  • Start dreaming dreams - Don't stop dreaming. Myles Munroe said, "the poorest person in the world is the person without a dream". You don't want to be such; do you?
  • Develop your gifts. You know things you are uniquely capable of. Things that you do with ease that you hardly find anyone that can do better than you do. I know mine - it's talking. I believe I am born to talk! *laughing*
  • Live your vision and be known for it. "A visionless life is a poverty stricken existence" ~ Myles Munroe. Where there is a vision, there is hope, there is faith, there is life. Give your vision your best shot always. Let your life communicate it. Let your life reflect it.
  • Start responding to life events as if you own your life. Don't cry when you can try. Don't give up when you can give it all it takes. Don't settle for less when you practically deserve more. Your response to the events in your life determines the outcome you will get from them
Thanks for reading once again. Remember, you are the only YOU!

Put Your Whole Life Into It

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I was reading Myles Munroe's book (The Principles and Power of Vision) today and he made a statement I reckon is worth sharing. He said, "Find your purpose and put your whole life into it." He added that "No matter how small...if you put your whole life into it, it won't be forgotten." Those words suddenly hit me as though I heard them directly from my creator. I then started to reflect on the lives of successful men I know, Myles Munroe inclusive. I discovered there is perhaps nothing more truthful than those words. The best thing I have heard/read today. Thus, the purpose of this post is to expand that thought and publish my reflections on it.

In my reflection, I found out that men and women of history, in past generations and now are the ones who put their whole  life into what they were born or called to do. What I also found out was that, the rule works on both the the nagative and positive sides of history.

I looked at the life of Adolf Hitler, who devoted his life to eradicate the entire Jewish race; while he was not totally successful in doing that, he made history (on the negative side).

The wright brothers dedicated their entire life to flying a plane to defile the law of gravity. With the continuous advancement of the industry today, saying that they were successful would perhaps be an understatement. They made their mark on their world.

Mother Theresa devoted her life to what is neither a technological invention nor an industrial craze but her mark on humanity remains unforgotten. So does the life of Mahatma Ghandi.

Michael Angelo poured his entire life into arts. Five hundred years after his death, he is still being studied, praised and revered.

Alexander Graham Bell never failed to believe sound could be converted into electrical impulses and transmitted by wire. He gave his entire being to it. Today, we have the telephone technology. He made history.

Beethoven and Mozart put themselves totally into what they knew how to do best and their music would never stop playing in the ears of men. They made history. 

Isaac Newton gave his whole life to science. Through his hardwork, various laws of physics came to being. He is referred to as one of the most influential scientist to have ever lived.

I can mention more and even more...

On the more recent side; perhaps people you and I would be able to relate to...

Bill Gates gave his whole life to making the computer personal and I am more than sure, he would not be forgotten in the course of history because he made it.

Nelson Madela devoted his life to fighting to apartheid in South Africa. He went to prison for 27 years, away from his family and friends but at last he got what he wanted.

Of course if I continue, we would not stop counting. These men made history by committing their whole lives to what they were born or believed they were born to do and they were and would never be forgotten in the course of human history.

Dear reader, I have found what my purpose is in life - to teach and encourage men to believe in themselves and who they were born to be. What is left for me now is to devote my entire being into it. My question to you is simple; what are you waiting for? Do you not know what your purpose in life is? Read my notes - who are you and where are you going? and What do you want? - they would give you a clue somehow.

Thanks for reading. I hope you were touched? Please visit again :)

(c) Le Dynamique Professeur

Let Go! The past is past!

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Two monks on a pilgrimage came to the ford of a river. There they saw a girl dressed in all her finery, obviously not knowing what to do since the river was high and she did not want to spoul her clothes. Without much ado, one of the monks took her on his back, carried her across and put her down on dry ground on the other side. Then the monks continued on their way. But the other monk after an hour started complaining, "Surely it is not right to touch a woman; it is against the commandmnets to have close contact with women. How could you go against the rules for monks?" The monk who had carried the girl walked along silently, but finally he remarked, "I set her down by the river an hour ago, why are you still carrying her?"

Like the other monk, many of us are still struggling with our past. We are either not forgiving ourselves or moving on. If there is any reason to look back, I reckon it should be to learn from our past experiences and not to weep or cry over them. The reason why many commit suicide is not really because they are passing through life's worst problems but because they have not learnt to let go and move on. In a group I recently joined on facebook, someone posted a question there, "why should we forget the past?". Amidst many answers I found on the thread, I simply replied, "...because it is past!"

If you are reading this and you've had a horrible past, its high time you let go and carry on. I once attended a seminar and the coach said something that still strikes me till date; he said, "the best way to live life is to live in the NOW". He then defined 'Now' as 0-5 seconds. If you are someone that lives too much in the past, I'm afraid, moving forward will be way too tedious a task for you to accomplish. If you are asking, how do I let go? Here are two broad steps that might help.

How do you let go?

1. Forgive
If you are the cause of your past failures and woes, you have to forgive yourself. If you don't life will be miserable for you. Should it be someone very close to you, release the person in your heart by forgiving him/her. I am sure it won't be easy. The people closest to us are the ones that we expect so much from and when they offend us, we find it hard to forgive and let go. If you need to seek help to get this done, please do. You really have to let go. You cannot have a happy life if you are holding someone in chains in your heart. It's absolutely impossible!

2. Forget
There are some things you have to forget. Just like the monk that lifted the lady. As soon as he dropped the lady, he had forgotten about it. While it seem a sin as a monk, he had let go in his heart . However, the other monk kept hammering about how bad it was for him to have carried the lady. Many of us are like that. We just find it very hard to forget our past hurts, past failures, past woes and falls. Verily, verily I say unto you; if you can't let go of your past, your future will go past without you featuring therein.

Remember, to feature in your dream future, you have to let go of your past. Learn from them but don't feed on them!

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